I’d like to talk about dating-sites… I was given the assignment of having a look at some of them and thought, why not? I am single and who knows, I might come across a nice bloke.
I never thought it would be such a terribly annoying experience and at some times I even felt ashamed, humiliated and angry. It even got up to a point were I could literally feel my blood-pressure go up and I started to scream at my computer (yes, that was one of the humiliating moments).
Ever heard of Zoosk? They actually make you choose between; yes I want children, or no I do not want children… Where is the option maybe??? I am 30, just finished my Masters degree and I have no clue whether I want children or not. And I certainly do not wish to be forced into such a decision by a dating-site… Plus it would give a false representation of who I am because if I say no, I will only get linked to men who also said no, byebye opportunity of ever having children. Or, if I would say yes, vice versa, I’m stuck with men who do want children and byebye freedom??? I do not wish to answer this question with either yes or no.
So I sent Zoosk an email, kindly asking them to add a maybe button, I’m still waiting for their answer.
So when I finally got through the whole registration procedure I started to look through some of the men, I got bored pretty quickly, none of them were even slightly compatible to me, sigh. I left the site open and continued with some other work when suddenly I got a popup saying that someone requested to chat with me. Okay, I looked at his profile and he seemed like a nice guy so I clicked yes, on the chat request. I got redirected to download a chat application… My frustration started to rise, but ok, I downloaded the app.
Finally after a couple of minutes I managed to get in touch with this man telling him I’m sorry, I’m new at this and still trying to figure out how everything works. He responded: **********
So I answered: I cannot read this, clicked on send and got a popup which basically said if you wish to continue please pay a stupid amount of money. I deleted the account there and then. I truly do not mind paying for these services but I do wish to have the chance of trying it out for a couple of days first. I would like to know what I’m paying for.
After this experience I thought maybe I should have a look at a dating-site that aims at higher educated people, not because that is my standard but in the hope it would cancel out some of the weirdos I came across on Zoosk.
My choice fell on Edarling, I liked the tv adds and the website looked nice. BIG MISTAKE!!!
It starts with me having to register my personal details which on page 1 are quite normal questions such as date of birth, marital status, education etc.
But then comes page 2, and this is where the anger, annoyance, shame and humiliation starts.
What is your profession: None of your business at this stage. (answer not accepted)
Hight… ok fair enough, ethnicity also a normal question.
Then come this part:
sense of style (ehm, excuse me, who am I to judge this?)
attractiveness (isn’t this in the eye of the beholder, who am I to say I am, and who in it’s right mind would answer this with no, I am butt-ugly…)
Overweight (I am not kidding, they actually ask this! I am slightly overweight, and found this question severely insulting. I don’t want to answer this with yes! But if I don’t I would be lying. I felt so terribly ashamed and humiliated!)
Plainness (Excuse me??? Who would ever say I am plain, and isn’t this also a very personal opinion, person A might find someone plain where person B might find this same person extremely exciting.)
Sexiness (again, excuse me? Wasn’t this a dating-site for the higher educated? What kind of question is this? Yeah dear, I love to flash my boobs whenever I can because I’m just so damn hot)
The worst part is that you are forced to answer these ridiculous questions if you wish to continue, there is no option to skip them.
F-you Edarling! I cancelled my registration, didn’t even got the chance of meeting the men on this one.
Now what I would like to know is what are your experiences with these dating-sites? Pro’s and con’s! I am really curious!